Reading1: Tiny Habits
Title: Tiny Habits Subtitle: Small changes that change everything Author: BJ FOGG, PhD – Behavior Scientist at Stanford University Year: 2020
Where it all begin
One day I was wandering in the first floor of VA building, I found a store selling books and souvenirs where I was attracted by this book due to its cover.
Introduction
“Tiny is mighty. At least when it comes to change.” The author mentioned that there is a painful gap between what people want and what they actually do in today’s world. This disconnect between want and do has been blamed on a lot of things —— but people blame it on themselves for the most part with the idea like “It’s your fault! You should exercise more, but you aren’t doing it. Shame on you!”
However, the author told us that we are not the problem.The problem is with the approach itself, not with us. Think of it this way: If you tried putting together a chest of drawers with faulty instructions and parts missing, you would feel frustrated. But you probably wouldn’t blame yourself for this, would you? You would blame the manufacturer instead. When it comes to failed attempts at change, we almost never blame the “manufacturer”. We blame ourselves. It’s a design flaw —— not personal flaw.
Building habits and creating positive change can be easy - if you have the right approach. In order to design successful habits and change your behaviors, you should do three things.
- Stop judging yourself.
- Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors.
- Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward.
“Behavior Design”